Do You Have An Anti Aging Obsession?

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Do You Have An Anti-Aging Obsession?

Do You Have An Anti Aging Obsession?

I can remember having an “anti aging obsession” as early as my late teens. Sure, I wasn’t yet obsessed with makeup, but I spent tons of money on acne products and aging creams. I would obsess over the latest wrinkle creams from L’Oréal and apply them as diligently as my zinc sunscreen. I remember my boyfriend laughing at how neurotically I would repurchase a cream the moment I ran out. Although I would usually be laughing with him, the fact remains that I still felt powerless to stop my own neurosis and there’s something wrong with that picture. Why are we so obsessed with stopping the aging process? What’s up with our anti aging obsession? And moreover, as Cindy from Hello Dollface said in her post about the term “anti-aging”, we need to change the way we talk about aging to reflect a more positive, aging gracefully thought process and mindset.

We need to change the way we talk about aging

Anti aging is a term so ingrained in my brain that I find myself using it in posts all the time without even giving it a second thought. After reading about how anti aging as a marketing term is affecting women, I became pretty horrified at the effect my words might be having on readers. I would never want readers to feel like they “have” to do something or else they’ll look old, ugly, etc. What’s wrong with those things anyway? And who says you need a skincare product to be or not be those things? The entire reason I work so hard to be transparent about what I’m doing with you guys is so that you have the option, the choice, and the awareness to make your own choices. I’m not trying to trick you into anything, but I know that’s usually the aim of many marketing campaigns across the board, especially where “health” and “beauty” are concerned. You don’t have to look further than the latest QVC ad or fitness infomercial to see words that often imply we aren’t, won’t be, and can’t be complete without their product. This “you need us” marketing tactic is one that most companies employ and it’s very effective. It worked on me for years and I wasn’t even their target audience.

Beauty has nothing to do with the latest eye cream.

I feel so lucky to have my boyfriend in my life. He’s kept me grounded in reality and never lets me get too obsessive about the whole “aging” thing. I no longer obsess over my “fine lines” which is ironic since I’m at a proper age to have them now. I’m sure I’m not alone in this aging panic. What’s sad is that it’s actually considered the norm. As soon as we hit our teens, aging becomes a horrific obsession that must be countered at all costs. That’s why girls as young as 16 go out and get botox, nose jobs, boob jobs, and even face lifts. It’s why young teens use eye creams even though they don’t have a fine line in sight. And when you really stop to think about it, isn’t it just ridiculous?

What's wrong with aging gracefully?

I love a good eye cream or face mask just as much as the next girl. I work hard to look nice and feel good about myself and I think that journey is different for each person. I also think it’s important to not judge someone else’s personal journey. It means something different to everyone. And while I think skincare and makeup are fun and a wonderful way to feel like your happiest, most confident self, I also feel that at this point in my life, I’m working to not be so obsessive about stopping the clock. After all, to live and age is a gift that’s not granted to everyone. It’s hard to feel grateful for the lines that will inevitably take root on my face. I can only hope to make peace with that and live in gratitude for the fact that I’m given the good grade to make it that far and to have lived, loved, and laughed my way there.

Anti Aging Obsession

So, I’m not making any promises (old habits die hard, people), but I will do my very best to stop using terms like anti aging and age reversal. I never stopped to consider the effect I was having on readers when I used that kind of language nor did I think about the kind of mindset I’d be encouraging by doing so. I never want you guys to think you need to change to be beautiful, to be happy, or to be loved. You’re beautiful and wonderful enough right now, in this moment, just the way you are. That’s something you can’t put a price tag on. It’s something that has nothing, at all, to do with eye cream.

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13 thoughts on “Do You Have An Anti Aging Obsession?

  1. May 24, 2016 at 9:31 AM

    Lovely post!
    I kinda have an obsession. I mean I freak out at each birthday, wondering if I have more wrinkles and if my boobs are to my knees yet haah
    It’s a paradox, I do think wrinkles can be beautiful, and aging is a privilege. But I also feel that I’m not ready!
    So yeah, I’m gonna keep on applying those serums 😉

    1. May 24, 2016 at 11:54 AM

      thanks Helene! I know I do too lol. It’s kinda of disturbing how obsessed society is with being young, but I know what you mean about wrinkles being beautiful, but then being equally terrified of it. lol me too, but I’m trying not to obsess over it like I did in the past. it’s tough, but I’m trying!

  2. May 24, 2016 at 10:47 AM

    While I agree with everything you said, I do believe that there is more to aging than just the “natural” progression. There is a serious issue with premature aging and toxic aging that I feel needs to be the focus of “anti-aging”. When I use that term, those are what I am referring to. I personally won’t stop using the terms “anti-aging” or “age-defying” because those are terms that provide recognition as to what specific products or ingredients do, but I understand why others want to stop using them. I just hope that down the road the anti-anti movement doesn’t move to removing “anti-acne” from our language because honestly, acne is not something I will ever embrace or love about myself! lol xx

    1. May 24, 2016 at 12:00 PM

      Yeah I totally get what you mean about like pollution and premature aging becoming such an issue because of our toxic environment. That’s definitely a thing. I think I’ll be talking about that in terms of healthy skin and premature aging, but not “anti aging” like I’m fighting the aging process that naturally happens. I’m still working on how I will talk about it or mention it because, like you said, it is so identifiable by these terms which does make it hard. I definitely don’t consider myself part of the “anti – anti-aging ” movement, but I do think we have a preoccupation with aging. we’re obsessed with it and obsessed with stopping the clock and it’s unhealthy to a point. or for me, it had been and I think a lot of people, especially women and girls deal with this, so I do think we can find a better way to discuss this that’s more positive and healthy for our mental state and accepting in life rather than trying to stretch and pull and prod ourselves just to fit the “youth ” forever mold. I don’t think I’ll be letting myself just fall apart any day soon, but I do want to have a better perspective on this. And yea I’l never be okay with my acne lol. not ever! I fought too hard to get my skin to a good place for that 😛 thanks for sharing your thoughts Sabrina!

  3. May 25, 2016 at 6:53 AM

    I totally have a fear of aging.
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    1. May 25, 2016 at 2:29 PM

      yep. I’m with you on that! ♪ we’re all in this together ♪ lol thanks for sharing your fears with me! I feel them too!

  4. iri
    May 31, 2016 at 8:18 AM

    Definitely we have to love ourselves how we are and it’s quite an art to be able to do this.

  5. May 31, 2016 at 9:23 PM

    I love this. I am closer to 30 than 20 and feel myself getting stressed about aging. Our society tells women that in order to have worth, we need to be eternally youthful. But if you think about it, that is so ridiculous. We are all on this human journey together and we ALL are getting older everyday. If we can learn to love ourselves in a true and healthy way, we can age gracefully! I hope 🙂

    1. June 2, 2016 at 7:37 AM

      yeah I know what you mean – same here. It’s a daily thing for me to remind myself of and I think we can all get there by supporting each other 🙂 thanks for sharing your thoughts, Kayla! ♥

  6. May 31, 2016 at 10:57 PM

    So true! I think we all obsess with the anti-aging thing. It’s the world we live in. You have to be in the best shape and wrinkle free well into your 50’s. I try not to obsess, but it’s definitely hard.

    1. June 2, 2016 at 7:40 AM

      yeah definitely. I know I’m a part of that and it’s hard to not obsess over, but I try not to let it take over my life. I guess it’s all about balance rather than being militant one way or the other you know?

  7. Linda Manns Linneman
    June 4, 2016 at 8:52 AM

    There is no getting around the fact that we are all aging. I am not saying I like it but like you said I am glad I am still here doing just that. I guess we have to think of our aging as character. We can’t change it so we might as well embrace it. Thank you so much for sharing

    1. June 7, 2016 at 8:43 AM

      exactly! I don’t think any of us truly enjoys “aging” in the physical sense, but being given the gift to age at all is something we can’t take for granted and I do think we can age gracefully. thanks for sharing your thoughts Linda 🙂

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