The Catch-22 of Body Confidence


The Catch-22 of Body Confidence

Recently, my friend and I were discussing body confidence. We talked about body shaming, the plus size power girl movement, the skinny backlash, and a ton of other topics as well. The discussion spawned from a question I asked her about curvy girls proudly displaying their bodies all over instagram. There are even “fat girl” instagram accounts where bigger girls and women flash a ton of skin all in the name of pride.

Anyhow, so it got me thinking and I asked her what her thoughts were on curvy girls doing this all over social media. Did she agree? Did she think it was a bit much? Is it weird to post a photo of your belly whether you’re skinny or not? We then got into a discussion about what a conundrum women face, regardless of their weight, when posting pictures of their bodies. We agreed that, either way, you face hate. If a bigger girl posts a photo of her body, baring skin, despite not being model thin, people will blast her saying she’s “unhealthy” even though they say they’re not doctors. So why are you commenting on someone’s health again? At the same time, skinny girls who post about their bodies receive the same hate, sometimes more, for being proud of their bodies and are told to “eat a hamburger” or “get some meat on their bones.” I want to mention that being neither skinny nor overweight is a reflection of health. A person can be chubbier and perfectly healthy while a person can be skinny and also healthy. On the flip side, both a skinny and an overweight person can be unhealthy. It really has nothing to do with weight and whole lot more to do with lifestyles and genetic medical history.

My friend and I are vastly different in appearance. I’m Italian Irish, brunette, curvy, and 5’6″. She’s half black half white, naturally blonde, quite thin, and about 5’9″. Despite our outward appearances, we have a lot in common, including battling our own body issues, insecurities, anxiety, and a deep love for film. So, what makes a person better or worse than the other? What gives one person more of a claim or right to post the photos than the other? Is it all just a cry for attention or an attempt at controversy to “go viral?” We really had no answer at the end of it all. In the end, we both decided we really like FatGirlFlow posts on instagram and equally enjoy fitspo accounts like FitGirlsInspire

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17 thoughts on “The Catch-22 of Body Confidence

  1. June 9, 2015 at 8:58 AM

    Body confidence is such a hard hard thing. I feel like we live in a society that has mixed expectations of us. The main thing I’ve found is that if I’m healthy and feel confident, that’s the most important thing. For me, I have to work out just to de-stress, and it helps me feel more confident about my body too. Everyone is different. Thanks for sharing! #TwinklyTuesday
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    1. June 9, 2015 at 9:30 AM

      Exactly. I couldn’t agree more. I think everyone is different. My only wish is that we, as women, supporting each other just a little bit more rather than judging someone else’s life. I also work out to de-stress! thanks for visiting me!

  2. June 9, 2015 at 11:27 AM

    Everyone needs to learn to love the body they have, so if someone is confident enough with themselves to post pictures–HOORAY! If that bothers someone–LOOK AWAY!
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    1. June 9, 2015 at 11:48 AM

      I couldn’t agree more with this. thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts! ♥

  3. June 9, 2015 at 2:16 PM

    My favourite post of yours so far. I wrote a similar one at and would love to hear what you think x
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    1. June 9, 2015 at 3:50 PM

      thanks! I’m glad you enjoyed it 🙂 will check out your post now ♥

  4. June 9, 2015 at 4:52 PM

    This is awesome. I spend a lot of time trying to address confidence as a personal trainer/nutrition coach and it is the No. 1 issue that just about every one of my clients must tackle. Good for you for taking this one head on here. It’s important that we all spread similar messages and get away from the constant silliness of fat-shaming and (insert whatever) shaming. #TwinklyTuesday
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    1. June 10, 2015 at 10:35 AM

      yeah it’s a big one to tackle, I’m sure. As women, we deal with a lot of criticism. At the same time, I think men deal with criticism as well, but in a different way. We all have our obstacles to overcome and I think confidence is so important. Fat shaming and skinny shaming – it’s all kind of dumb in my opinion. thanks for visiting!

  5. June 9, 2015 at 6:50 PM

    Im really on the fence about this! It’s wonderful to have confidence, in fact, it’s necessary – however obesity is not something to be proud of or promote because it’s not healthy… :-/
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    1. June 10, 2015 at 10:30 AM

      I agree that it’s wonderful to have confidence and be confident, however; I think the important thing here is to let people live their lives. Whether they are healthy or unhealthy, obese or skinny. Because as I said before, overweight does not equal unhealthy and skinny does not equal health. Unless someone’s a doctor, I don’t think they have the right to say you know? I get where you’re coming from, but I kind of think a person’s health is something personal between them and their healthcare provider. Also, I don’t really support it when people comment on people’s photos telling them they’re unhealthy or what they need to do to be healthy because, as I said, we’re all not doctors and we’re not qualified to make any claims you know?

  6. June 10, 2015 at 6:53 PM

    I couldn’t agree more, you and your friend nailed the topic. What a lovely post.
    Rachel xo
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    1. June 11, 2015 at 7:50 AM

      thanks for stopping by!

  7. June 11, 2015 at 6:25 AM

    Body confidence is such a hard one. It totally comes from within — even with the pressures of the media, some girls are super confident whilst others struggle. Each to their own at the end of the day. Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday — hope to see you again next week! x Please add the badge to the end of your post!!!

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    1. June 11, 2015 at 7:54 AM

      Yeah definitely agree. I added it to my link parties page – I thought it said that was okay in your rules? If not, let me know. Thanks!

  8. Ina
    June 13, 2015 at 5:42 AM

    What I love best about today’s fashion landscape is that it is slowly starting to show beauty in all its infinite shapes, colours, sizes, ages and genders. We are finally acknowledging beauty as a universal thing and not narrowly defined by certain standards. I hope I see diversity become more and more mainstream in the years to come. x
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    1. June 16, 2015 at 9:52 AM

      I couldn’t agree more with that! I see so many wonderful bloggers and even fashion models, public figures, etc. who are taking a stand at loving themselves and promoting others to do the same. It definitely gives women the courage to be proud of their body, their beauty, etc. thanks for stopping by!

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