The Catch-22 of Body Confidence
Recently, my friend and I were discussing body confidence. We talked about body shaming, the plus size power girl movement, the skinny backlash, and a ton of other topics as well. The discussion spawned from a question I asked her about curvy girls proudly displaying their bodies all over instagram. There are even “fat girl” instagram accounts where bigger girls and women flash a ton of skin all in the name of pride.
Anyhow, so it got me thinking and I asked her what her thoughts were on curvy girls doing this all over social media. Did she agree? Did she think it was a bit much? Is it weird to post a photo of your belly whether you’re skinny or not? We then got into a discussion about what a conundrum women face, regardless of their weight, when posting pictures of their bodies. We agreed that, either way, you face hate. If a bigger girl posts a photo of her body, baring skin, despite not being model thin, people will blast her saying she’s “unhealthy” even though they say they’re not doctors. So why are you commenting on someone’s health again? At the same time, skinny girls who post about their bodies receive the same hate, sometimes more, for being proud of their bodies and are told to “eat a hamburger” or “get some meat on their bones.” I want to mention that being neither skinny nor overweight is a reflection of health. A person can be chubbier and perfectly healthy while a person can be skinny and also healthy. On the flip side, both a skinny and an overweight person can be unhealthy. It really has nothing to do with weight and whole lot more to do with lifestyles and genetic medical history.
My friend and I are vastly different in appearance. I’m Italian Irish, brunette, curvy, and 5’6″. She’s half black half white, naturally blonde, quite thin, and about 5’9″. Despite our outward appearances, we have a lot in common, including battling our own body issues, insecurities, anxiety, and a deep love for film. So, what makes a person better or worse than the other? What gives one person more of a claim or right to post the photos than the other? Is it all just a cry for attention or an attempt at controversy to “go viral?” We really had no answer at the end of it all. In the end, we both decided we really like FatGirlFlow posts on instagram and equally enjoy fitspo accounts like FitGirlsInspire ♥