Stop the Woman Hate: Accepting Beauty At Every Size, Shape and Color ♥

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There is a TON of commentary on body acceptance online as of late and I kind of feel like I want to chime in my own thoughts on the matter, not only because I am a curvy girl, but also because I think it’s important remember that all women, no matter their size, have beauty, value, and should be allowed to take up as much room as they like.


As a result of not loving and accepting myself, I was overly critical of others and had difficulty seeing the good.


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Of course, I feel obligated to write this article not only because I am a woman, but also because I know the crushing sense of feeling that no matter what, I’d never be enough. As a result of not loving and accepting myself, I was overly critical of others and had difficulty seeing the good. I’ve dealt with body image issues (and still do), beauty image issues, and every kind of self-esteem issue you can think of all for a standard that, in all actuality, doesn’t really even exist. It’s taken me years to work through the maelstrom of emotional distress and self-hatred to realize that I am worth my weight in gold, regardless of my actual body weight. And that freaking out over an invisible ideal is not worth living life unhappy. And that’s a truth for all of us.


I understand just as much as the next girl that we are our own worst critics and, if our body image is bad enough, we can be the worst critic for other women as well. 


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As women, we tend to be really hard on ourselves and each other. I understand just as much as the next girl that we are our own worst critics and, if our body image is bad enough, we can be the worst critic for other women as well. It’s actually really unsettling that we, as women, have such combative relationships with ourselves and each other, but it’s understandable. With the constant stream of media pushed to the forefront every single day, it’s really no wonder. And now with social media and the fact that we are constantly on our phones, tablets, and computers, there is literally no break from the endless litany of requirements to be beautiful, fit, healthy, skinny, sexy, and desirable. As a blogger, I can see this effect now more than ever and, to be honest, it’s kind of a drawback to blogging. If you spend enough time dissecting the media, the strings start to unravel and you start to understand just how deep the rabbit hole is. What with beauty articles on how to look prettier, fitness tips on how to lose a thousand pounds in a month, and super scary deprivation diets designed to seem healthy on the surface, it can be a seriously slippery slope if you’re on a quest to meet societal standards. The scary thing about it all is that you don’t even know it’s happening until it’s already done and then you’re left with damage that needs fixing so it almost feels as if body issues are inevitable, but it doesn’t have to be that way.


Take a walk down the street and ask every girl you pass if she’s ever felt inadequate and you’d get an overwhelming response of YES.


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Despite the fact that we, as women, can sometimes perpetuate the problem (likely without even realizing it), I think the body acceptance movement is a really important step in the right direction. And not just for curvy girls, but for every. single. girl. Every single girl or woman out there knows what it’s like to feel less-than. Take a walk down the street and ask every girl you pass if she’s ever felt inadequate and you’d get an overwhelming response of YES. Because societal body and beauty pressures are like a gang that everyone wants to be jumped into so we all beg for abuse over and over. Only they never tell you that no matter what you do, you’ll never be good enough. Even if you are. That’s why body acceptance and support among women is so important. If I’m honest, it’s also important among men, but the problem is certainly more glaring among us women. A lot of the time, we are a part of the problem. We have to lift one another up. We have to refuse to buy into the pressure to be something other than what we are and then help encourage others instead of putting them down. And most of all, we have to realize that we are already enough, already so valuable to the world without ever even thinking the words diet, treadmill, or makeup. We’re all beautiful just by the fact of our existence. Just by the sheer fact that we, as humans, exist and function in such a beautiful, perfect way no matter what we look like.


The truth is that whether you want perfect skin, perfect hair, or a “perfect” body – IT DOESN’T EXIST.


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I honestly believe that once we’ve figured out how to truly accept ourselves, then we can finally eradicate the one major thing that tends to stand in our way when it comes to women support and that is female cattiness. A lot of our own animosity toward others, after all, is simply a reflection of our own dissatisfaction and disappointment with ourselves. The truth is that whether you want perfect skin, perfect hair, or a “perfect” body – IT DOESN’T EXIST. In fact, you are perfect as you are, right now, in this moment. When we realize that the idea of “perfect beauty” in any form is just a random marketing ploy and that our own feelings of inadequacy are completely fabricated and exploited by companies as a way to get us to buy their products, we might finally be able to truly love ourselves. And as a byproduct, to love and embrace others instead of passing unrealistic judgments. Not just as we’d like or imagine ourselves to be, but as we really are. And I honestly believe that when we finally see and accept ourselves in all our entirety with every perfect imperfection, we will be able to embrace our true beauty. And that has absolutely nothing to do with the way that we look. Because that kind of beauty is truly skin deep.


…the entire illusion of perfection is created by us, perpetuated by us (and the media to sell products), and therefore may be eradicated by us, once and for all, when we finally decide to drop the baggage and love ourselves.


At some point, I really hope that we can get a handle on body acceptance, not just because it will greatly improve our own lives and happiness, but also because it builds a better path for future generations of women who might not feel the need to grow up hating themselves and wondering why. They’ll know they’re wonderful and unique just as they are and that, in an of itself, is a beautiful thing. The entire illusion of perfection is created by us, perpetuated by us (and the media to sell products), and therefore may be eradicated by us, once and for all, when we finally decide to drop the baggage and love ourselves.

What Do You Think of the Body Acceptance Movement?

I’d love to hear your thoughts!

♥ Tianna

* I do not claim to own any images in this post; all of them were found on Pinterest. If an image belongs to you, I am happy to source directly to you instead of Pinterest or remove it, if requested.

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17 thoughts on “Stop the Woman Hate: Accepting Beauty At Every Size, Shape and Color ♥

  1. May 28, 2014 at 9:14 PM

    LOVE THIS! Love every size…a woman is a WOMAN regardless of shape.
    http://adornedinarmor.com

  2. May 29, 2014 at 3:19 AM

    I love the picture about “real women.” The body image and women empowerment movement is great, but too often we all forget that skinny women are beautiful and insecure too. Every woman is beautiful in her own way and we should find that beauty instead of putting down one body type to empower another.

    Munachi
    GlamorousRevelation.blogspot.com

  3. April 12, 2015 at 4:43 PM

    Who is the model I’m the first picture

    1. April 12, 2015 at 5:01 PM

      Not sure but it says Deejae Harper

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