How My Boyfriend and I Started Dating

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How My Boyfriend and I Started Dating

When I first met my current boyfriend, I had no thoughts about dating him and even less about that relationship spanning over nearly 8 years (so far – knock on wood lol). At the time, I was a senior in high school with an avid love for drama. Being in the same drama circles at the local college, my boyfriend had a screenwriting program and he agreed to burn it for me as I had expressed an interest in script writing. For the next 2 years, we chatted online every now and again, but it wasn’t until I was nearly 20 that we began an actual in-real-life friendship. Both of us are avid movie buffs, so we did what anyone would do and went to watch tons of movies together. We would get ice cream after, walk around the movie plaza, and argue about politics and social issues. At that time, we were just two passionate friends getting together to enjoy mutual interests.

From there, our friendship evolved into watching a mutual TV show favorite: Heroes. Every Monday night, we would meet at each other’s homes to watch the latest episode and theory craft (obviously). As our friendship evolved, I had no intentions or idea of it going any further, but I guess my boyfriend did. He confessed his “like” for me by leaving a single rose and letter/poem on my doorstep. In hindsight, that’s a really romantic gesture, but at the time, I thought he was a complete weirdo. I guess I’m not used to the romantic gesture thing. Then, in an effort to ask me out on a date in a kind of “grand gesture” sort of way, he waited for me, early in the morning, out in front of my house. As I was heading out the door for class, he tried to ask me out, but quickly learned that I am so not a morning person. I was half-conscious and grumpy at that. When I arrived home that day, he was still waiting for me in front of my house, trying to talk. Little did he know that I’d been sitting in traffic for 5 hours ( I went to school in LA at the time – traffic – it sucks ). I snapped at him that I couldn’t talk right then and went into my house. To be frank, I was completely unnerved by him. I spent the next hour telling my friend how I thought he was a total weirdo/stalker and it wasn’t until she asked me a very important question that I began to reconsider – ” Don’t you think that maybe you’re just afraid that someone actually genuinely and sincerely likes you for you? Maybe you’re just afraid of usual.”


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Apparently, I had a track-record for being a flight risk. It’s true, though, and after that conversation and a month later, I went on my first “official” date-date with my boyfriend and, I guess, the rest is history (in the making, that is).

It’s funny because I never thought I would ever date someone who I was previously friends with. We all know the dreaded “friend-zone,” but in hindsight, it makes so much sense. Why wouldn’t you date someone that you’re friends with? Why would you date someone you don’t want to be friends with? After all, unless you guys just want to sleep together and go your separate ways and call that a relationship, you should enjoy talking to the person. You should have mutual interests. I’m not saying you should agree on everything, but there should be a common thread and I think that’s what’s helped my relationship last so long. I don’t profess to have the key or know the secret to a long or even healthy relationship, but it’s worked for us so far and, for that, I’m incredibly grateful. We still wake up happy, go to sleep laughing, and enjoy each other’s company. I love him even when I’m busy hating him in an argument. Not every moment is a kodak one. In fact, it’s incredibly messy and there’s a lot of growth involved, getting over your own baggage and hang-ups in life, but if you can do it together, then you’ll be in an even better place than you thought possible and I say that from experience.

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20 thoughts on “How My Boyfriend and I Started Dating

  1. January 27, 2016 at 7:57 AM

    You two are adorable, and that’s a lovely “how we met” story! As you said, it’s only the beginning 🙂

    1. January 27, 2016 at 9:28 AM

      thanks so much Helene! I’m glad you liked hearing my story 🙂

  2. January 27, 2016 at 9:34 AM

    That’s so sweet. My hubby and I met at a Bunko party!

    1. January 27, 2016 at 5:09 PM

      thanks Margery 🙂 how cool – what’s a Bunko party? I’m so curious now !

  3. January 27, 2016 at 11:57 AM

    Awwwww..I love this! What a cute story! 🙂 My hubs and I met at our last job (Media Play) and even though I thought he was cute, I was a manager, he wasn’t, he was kind of a vanilla farmboy (think Clark Kent meets Seve Rogers) and he was 10 years younger so I never thought of him romantically at all. We did end up becoming great friends though I never thought of him romantically – until the last New Year’s we had at MP. Long story of my co-worker’s mentioned hooking Josh up with one of her friends and for some reason that just did not sit well with me..I went out to his dept. and asked if (per usual) he was going to be my “date” for New Year’s..I know! Such a dick move! lol We ended up meeting up with a bunch of people from work at a martini bar and well, 4 martini’s later I was liplocked with him. Once that ice was broken, we started talking on the phone every night and he would leave me notes on my desk at work which I thought was sweet. 10 years later and we are VERY happily married and still the best of friends ever. Also..I LOVE that he is like a real life combo of Clark Kent and Steve Rogers…nerdy, sweet, smart, awkward it’s all sexy to me now! 🙂

    1. January 27, 2016 at 5:18 PM

      thanks Sabrina 🙂 your story is super cute! I love how you described him haha. That’s super adorable and I think it’s so funny that you asked him to be your date – I don’t call that a dick move – I call that taking charge! lol. you crack me up! thanks for sharing this ♥

  4. January 27, 2016 at 2:18 PM

    What a cute story 🙂
    I always love reading others love stories.

    xoxo, Jenny

  5. January 27, 2016 at 3:50 PM

    Awww what a cute story! Thanks so much for sharing a little piece of your life 🙂 My boyfriend and I have a somewhat similar story. We met when we were working at a ski resort, literally in the middle of nowhere. There were about 30 of us that worked there, and everyone worked together, hung out together, partied together, etc so we all got to know one another really fast.

    He and I discovered we had similar taste in music so we started hanging out and listening to CDs (lol way back in the day!). I think everyone we worked with knew we were a couple before we did, but within a couple of weeks he had moved in with me, and a month later he went home to pack up all his belongings to move across the country to stay for good!

  6. January 27, 2016 at 4:47 PM

    This is such a sweet post! I totally agree with the friend thing…my current boyfriend and I were friends for a loooong time before we confessed anything for each other but I’m glad we did. I don’t trust anyone or enjoy spending time with anyone more.
    Best wishes for you two!

  7. January 27, 2016 at 6:25 PM

    Aww, that’s a cute story! 😛 8 years is a long time, so major props to the both of you! I have no story to speak of at the moment, but maybe someday, I’ll have one to share! 😛
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    1. January 28, 2016 at 10:16 AM

      thanks Farrah 🙂 It doesn’t feel like 8 years. Time flies when you’re having fun, I guess. I hope you have a wonderful story to share in the future! You’re such a lovely person and I know there’s that perfect someone out there for you ♥

  8. February 1, 2016 at 3:06 PM

    What a cute story! Thanks so much for sharing at Inspiration Thursday! Hope you have an awesome week.

  9. February 5, 2016 at 11:30 AM

    Such a cute story!! My hubby and I met and were friends at first, I think that’s the best way to start a relationship.

    1. February 9, 2016 at 9:12 AM

      thanks Stephanie! I’m glad other people meet and date after being friends. It’s such an underrated way to meet someone in my opinion! 😛

  10. February 13, 2016 at 2:35 PM

    Friendship is a pretty good basis for a relationship. When I was a teenager my mum asked me to visit a couple who were having a Open House to celebrate their 60th wedding anniversary. I remember the woman cautioning to ensure if I ever married I married a friend “because friendship is all that really lasts in the end”

    1. February 16, 2016 at 8:56 AM

      thanks – I definitely think that’s so true! I didn’t really get it before dating my current boyfriend. I used to date guys that, if I stopped to think about it, I would never be friends with if I wasn’t dating them and I think that says so much about our mutual interests, compatibility, and their character (in my eyes). thanks for sharing your thoughts 🙂

  11. February 20, 2016 at 10:26 AM

    I met mine on the Internet. Yahoo Personals to be exact. And here we are over 7 years later and 3 kids together and I also have 2 stepsons that came with the relationship with him. You’re right we’ve had lots of good and bad Kodak moments but have always made a pact that splitting up will never be an option. That we will work as hard as we can on solving the problem. There are no guarantees but if we ever did spit it wouldn’t be because we didn’t explore every option possible. Thanks for linking up with #momsterslink linky … Hope to see you again.

  12. Linda Manns Linneman
    May 30, 2016 at 4:05 PM

    This article was great. It is nice to be friends and enjoy alot of the same things. That is what should make a strong relationship. I am so happy for you. God Bless

    1. May 31, 2016 at 8:33 AM

      thanks so much Linda – I totally agree! It’s definitely helped us in the long run. I think if you’re not friends with whoever you date then the relationship probably won’t last too long. you will definitely run out of things to talk about and not enjoy being around each other so much. thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts 🙂

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