On the 20th of this month, I’ll be turning 27. I know, I’m getting old, but in my brain, I’m still 19 years old. It’s just that my taste has gotten a lot better and I can now afford to buy expensive eye cream every now and then. Sure, there are a TON of things I still haven’t figured out yet. Like how to get myself out of bed before 6AM to do morning workouts or how to make lunch and dinner every day of the week, but I have learned some things that I didn’t know before so I thought I would share 27 things I learned in my 27 years. It’s a bit early seeing as my birthday isn’t until next Wednesday, but I will likely be taking that day off to chill so I’m sharing this now 😛
27 Things I Learned in 27 Years
- Do something everyday that scares you everyday. It builds character. For me, this sometimes means forcing myself to sing karaoke in front of a bunch of strangers simply because, yes, it scares the crap out of me. I hate feeling afraid so I make a point to just do it even if I crash and burn. I always feel better afterwards and I always feel braver.
- Your mom was right. about everything. This was the most annoying revelation of my early 20’s. It physically hurt to admit that my mom was right about so many simple little things that I thought I knew all about. Nope. You don’t. Your mom is going to school you so hard you won’t see it even coming. That said, maybe don’t admit it ALL to her -_- She will be smug about it.
- What other people think of you is none of your business. I mean, really though, who cares? What other people think of me is none of my business. When I tell myself this, it helps me let go of the opinions of others and just do my thing. The truth is that you don’t have control over the thoughts or actions of others. They will think what they think regardless so it’s better to just do you and not worry about it.
- People will love or hate you and it’s completely out of your control. I’m a total people pleaser most days, but the older I get, the less I give a crap. It’s not that I don’t want people to like me or that I’m outright a bitch, it’s just that people’s opinions matter less and less because you start to realize that no matter what, the people who like you will like you and the people who hate you will do the same. It’s just a fact of life: not everyone will like you and it’s more to do with them than you.
- Be yourself; everyone else is taken. I can’t stress this enough. I know it’s tempting to see everyone online, celebrities, and other people in your life and want to copy what they do. After all, they’re successful, right? But the important thing is to remember that what’s right for one person isn’t necessarily right for another. What makes one happy may not make you happy. It’s best to just be the best version of yourself that you can be and put on blinders when it comes to what other people are doing.
- It is important to retain your childlike wonder for the world. The world is an amazing place! Watch the news, it’s so easy to only see what’s bad and what’s going wrong, but if you never stop to look outside, you may never see what’s going right in the world. Breathe in the air, take time to play outside or try new things, take naps, color, watch freaking Disney. You’re NOT too old to enjoy the things you love or to view the world with new eyes.
- Be an optimist; the world has enough critics and pessimists already. It’s so easy to criticize and judge others for their actions, especially yourself, but I challenge you to be an optimist. Think of all the things that could go right. Think of all the ways you could totally rock your life out. There are so many people who will talk about how you might fail, how life is hard, how that career field is so competitive. Who cares? Do it anyway. Dare to think you can succeed. It’s better than the alternative.
- Remind yourself how wonderful you are each day. Nobody is going to put time into you if you don’t put time into you. Remind yourself that you are beautiful, worthy, talented, and special. It’s easy to forget our own worth at times so this is a great way to set the tone for our day, attitude, and intention.
- Nobody can take your power from you without your permission. It may seem like people are victimizing you in life, but it’s important to remember that nobody can do so without your permission. Nobody can make you feel inferior. Nobody can tell you who you are. Nobody can tell you if you’re good enough or not. Only you can do that.
- We accept the love we think we deserve. In the past, I was definitely someone who dated jerks. I constantly entered into crap relationships with guys who couldn’t care less about me. The truth about this is that we accept the love we think we deserve. If you’re in a crap relationship with a crap person, get out of that relationship! Do not accept something that makes you unhappy. Once you stop settling, you may find that more suitable partners come your way. The same can be said for job opportunities, how we let our family treat us, etc.
- Harry Potter is still the best book series of all time. Sure, I’ve found other book series to read since the series ended in 2007, but I always go back to Harry Potter because its such a good reference for life and the books are so timeless. If you haven’t read them yet, you definitely should!
- Connect with people and be genuinely interested in them. I know, life is busy and people are boring, but you should still take the time out to connect with people who do interest you. Talk to your friends, meet new people, and be genuinely interested in what they have to say. You may be surprised at what you learn.
- Take a moment to enjoy your surroundings and breathe it all in. Breathe in the fresh air, soak up the sunshine, admire the trees. Nature can improve our day so much and I think it’s one of those things that’s very easy to take for granted.
- Shit happens; don’t let it ruin your day. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen people have one thing happen to them and let it ruin their entire day. I’ve done it myself. You know, someone cuts you off on the freeway or says something unkind and it takes over your whole day. My advice? Don’t let it! Sing your favorite song and move on. Let it out, vent to someone, and then let it go. It’s not worth it to let your entire day go to shit just because of a few small bumps in the road.
- Either you run the day or the day runs you. In that same vein of letting things ruin your day, you should also take control of your day and do what you want to do. Things WILL come up; they always do. It’s up to you to make sure you stay on track with your goals and get things done as best you can.
- Eat healthy and work out in some way every day. I know that, realistically, none of us can be at 100% all the time, but if you consistently work toward being active each day and filling your body with nutrient- rich foods, I can guarantee that you will look and feel a LOT better.
- You are not perfect, but neither is anyone else. I spent a big part of my childhood trying so hard not to “mess” anything up. I was so scared to make mistakes because I had perfectionism put into my head. Well, newsflash to past me and also to you: NOBODY is perfect. No one is good at everything all the time and this is good news because it means you don’t have to be either. Find out what you’re good at and work toward improving yourself for your own fulfillment as opposed to trying to be “perfect” all the time.
- Spread kindness around like confetti.Smile at strangers, open doors for others, pay for a stranger’s coffee, support charities you care about, and help your friends when they need it. The world is not short on angry, bitter people, but kindness is contagious.
- Pay it forward.I have a philosophy that if I can do some good in the world and spread it around, it will spread like wildfire. Whenever I make extra money or have extra stuff, I try to share it with whomever is around or needs it. You can apply this to intangible things as well like being kind, doing something nice for someone, listening to someone who needs a shoulder. There are many ways to pay it forward.
- If you have a choice between doing something mean and being kind (you always do), always being kind. My first reaction to anyone being unkind or mean to someone is to attack back, but the older I get, the more I realize how futile a reaction this is. Nothing is solved with this kind of action so I try to respond with kindness, understanding, and compassion as much as I can. There are many times I’ve regretted saying or doing something mean, but I’ve never regretted kindness.
- Enjoy something sweet once a week.It’s my personal opinion that having a dessert or chocolate once a week enriches the soul. You don’t need to do it every day, but having a sweet pastry or something after dinner on a Friday is a great way to fully enjoy life. Plus, if it’s chocolate, it gives you endorphins and fights aging!
- Failure is just a layover on the train of life. Failure used to seem like the worst thing to me, but now that I’ve found a TON in life, it just seems like the process. You try, you fail, you try again. Never give up on something you really want. If you want it badly enough, you will eventually get it.
- Be creative and create. Whether this is creating music, writing, art, crafting, or something else you enjoy doing, do it with your full heart. Gain inspiration, take time out to do the things you really love, and create as much as you can.
- Read and Learn more. Reading can take us places within our imaginations where we will never be able to go. Reading and learning are things we should never stop doing. Reading actually helps improve brain function and reconnect neural pathways. Learning is great for cognitive function and the older you get, the more you should practice these things to maintain your brain health, memory, etc. Also, it’s fun to learn new things and read new stories.
- Love and Laugh more.There’s plenty of hate in the world from ignorant, small-minded people; don’t be one of them. Love with your full heart and laugh with your entire body. Dive into life and don’t care who’s watching. The truth is that people envy those of us who can live intentionally and meaningfully. So make a choice to love, laugh and live as often as you can.
- Listen.If someone needs to talk, it might be our first instinct to judge and dish out some advice of what we would do in their situation, but sometimes the best way to help someone out is just by listening. We don’t need to say anything.; we just need to be there and hear what the other person has to say.
- Never give up on your dreams. People may tell you you’re foolish for having big dreams, that you should shoot for something more “attainable” or “realistic.” Maybe they will tell you that your goals should involve making a lot of money or having “security,” but the truth is that security is an illusion. Do what you want. Life is meant to be lived so live how you want and never give up on the things you want to achieve most.
Birthday Cake Ideas
- Korean Fruit and Cream Cake – Fit for the Soul
- Naked Birthday Cake – What’s Gaby Cooking
- Naked Chocolate Cake – Food Network
- Rose Rhubarb Layer Cake – Vikalinka
- Black Forest Mousse Cake – Sweet Gastronomy
Birthday Party Ideas
- Paper Birthday Crown – Small for Big
- DIY Flower Balloons – Design Improvised
- Gorgeous Candy Bar Party Inspiration – Hochzeitswahn
- Balloon Arch Tutorial – The House that Lars Built
- Creative Ice Cubes – Buzzfeed
- Hot Air Balloon Centerpiece – Wedding Bee
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